Friday, May 18, 2012

True Confessions...

Today was the birthday of my youngest boy's best friend. We were honored to attend his WONDERFUL birthday party! His EXTREMELY TALENTED mother did a fabulous woodland themed party. The children all had lovely felted masks and she had made wonderful decorations and the cake, the cake, well I'll let the photos do the talking!!

Here's the true confession part. Years ago when I had my first child, I had many ideas of what makes a "good mom" and moms like my dear friend today would have been intensely intimidating to me. Since I didn't grow up with my mom, I longed for a mom who would create things and do "mommy" things with and for me. For years I sabotaged myself by comparing myself to other moms who I found more creative, more organized, who I thought "had it all together". If you've read any of my other posts you might say, you ARE creative, etc., etc. and I might agree with you. However, when we as moms sabotage ourselves and make comparisons, we are not being rational. We are only looking outward to get our validation, which means we don't always value what we do, do. We second guess ourselves because we are not confident, satisfied or feel valued. We think everyone else knows more and does it better. The grass is always greener ideology comes into play. Other mom's kids are always smarter, better dressed, involved in all the "right" things. For years this was me in a nut shell, nothing in my life seemed enough.

I am happy to say that has since changed! Today I was able to take part in the festivities and "oh and awe" over things and NOT feel inadequate. I was so happy for her to have pulled it all together and happy for me, that finally it had nothing to do with me! I could be inspired to do more with my kids, but not feel like a failure if I don't. What a blessing indeed!!


  1. Thank you Diane for the kind words. It is so true about our own insecurities. By the look of these pictures it would appear that I was an altogether "perfect" mom. In fact my house is a disaster and we have eaten sandwiches all week! The only thing that I think I do right is always being willing to stop and snuggle. In the end, nothing that you can take a picture of matters at all.

  2. I just stumbled across your blog while looking for some inspiration for my first sons FIRST birthday party. Honestly, I have been really struggling with what to do for it because all of our friends are incredibly creative and throw amazing parties. and I just cant get the inspiration for his and I finally recognized that its just because I'm comparing myself to all of my mom friends. Thank you for speaking what is on your heart. It spoke to me. Praise Jesus.

    1. Thanks so much for your kind words Holly! Hope you stop by again soon. My plan is to be posting again more regularly!


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